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spike · Professional Joined: 29 Sep 2008 Posts: 2030

If you would have any, our son will get on a plane for Virgina to a treatment center called Mount Regis to help him find his way without using any chemicals to hide from life's unknowns.He's 21 and its been a sad time for him--and us.But he wants help and we pray he will find what he needs to be happy and sucessful.We love him to death-and he's a great kid--just lost.What would you say to someone you dont really know who needs words of encouragement to use while on the plane and sitting for 2 hours waiting for a connecting flight? Sad

Cylinsier · Master Joined: 29 Sep 2008 Posts: 13229 Location: Oh shi-

I don't know what to say. Hope it works out though. Stay positive.
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spike · Professional Joined: 29 Sep 2008 Posts: 2030

Well, hey, its kinda alot to just jump on in and hit the folks I never met to respond to such a personal situation.So my expectations are not thinking Ill get an emotional connection of any kind but hell, you never know what someone might share.Abomb! There was a time when I knew your name...I would use it here to just say thanks man.Ive always respected your thoughts.

amom · Posted: Thu Jan 28, 2010 11:24 pm Post subject:

My favorite encouraging thought:

"I am not afraid of tomorrow,
for I have seen yesterday,
and I love today."

Simple, yes, but can easily become a mantra to get your son through his treatment. I really hope this works out for him... and for his family. Hang in there.
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Brant · Posted: Fri Jan 29, 2010 6:23 am Post subject:

Just tell him you love him, believe in him and are proud of him.
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ellipses · Mod Joined: 29 Sep 2008 Posts: 9218 Location: WashPa!

Good luck to him, Spike... it's a hard thing to overcome, I hope he has it in him
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spike · Professional Joined: 29 Sep 2008 Posts: 2030

Thank you all.He's on the plane.We were up at 3:00 and I took him this morning.I stayed until he made it through security as he is an insulin dependant diabetic and had his needles and insulin with him of course.man,goodbyes suck huh?God has him now.

freethinker · Posted: Fri Jan 29, 2010 10:28 am Post subject:

There is a sadness that cannot be spoken, and sorrows that will not be shared....
Spoken words fail at this altitude of pain -- there is no oxygen left for speech...
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Doctors call it "Depression" as if it's an abnormal disease...
Yet, I submit to you, Spike, that an actively functioning mind, should normally feel lost, alone, and depressed...
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Tell your son he is not alone in his intelligent recognition of the lost absurdity of life -- many of us feel the same -- and remind him that creative alternatives to chemical numbness still remain...
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I will pray for his safe-keeping
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spike · Professional Joined: 29 Sep 2008 Posts: 2030

Wow, Freethinker, that was awesome.I saved those words to share with others.I am actually teaching an adult Sunday school and I will be using your words this week as part of my lesson plan.Thank you.Your words will be of benefit to more than just my son and our situation.

freethinker · Posted: Fri Jan 29, 2010 10:51 am Post subject:

Thank you, Spike...And this may seem sort of circular, but sharing words of encouragement with others, is one creative way to battle depression
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SSSS · Posted: Fri Jan 29, 2010 10:54 am Post subject:

All good advice here-I have nothing wise to add spike-just GOOD LUCK. Love him and if he stumbles pick him up and love him even more.
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Brant · Posted: Fri Jan 29, 2010 10:57 am Post subject:

We recognize from our own lives that humans make mistakes, sometimes huge ones, and all of us, at one time or another, needed encouragement to pick ourselves up and try again.
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SweetAsCanBe · Amature Joined: 30 Nov 2008 Posts: 90 Location: washington

Tell your son you love him and your arms will be held open for him when he returns....Good Luck to him and your family....

spike · Professional Joined: 29 Sep 2008 Posts: 2030

Thank you kindly.

dazes · Professional Joined: 08 May 2009 Posts: 1422

Spike been through what you are going through, and know how difficult it is. Once you got him in treatment it was probably such a relief to you and your family, that the hope for a new future hasn't sunk in. Remember that you raised the boy and when he begins his recovery in earnest, the part of you that raised him and gave him his moral fiber will kick in. I wish you and him nothing but peace and acceptance. It is a long road and if there are stumbles along the way, just remember he fell quite a few times learning to walk and may fall a few times on his way to sobriety but he'll get there someday.